Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured. – Mark Twain
There is absolutely no way a man can live beyond his emotions of which anger is part. Emotions are quite instinctive biological responses to neurophysiological changes which can be due to thoughts, feelings, behavioral changes, pleasure, or displeasure. Our lives are punctuated by different emotions per time, we can not avoid them. You can be high on the dose of joy and happiness now and at the low ebb of sorrow and defeat the next hour.
According to the Encyclopedia of Psychology, as quoted by the American Psychological Association, anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong. Anger is a natural emotion just like love, happiness, sadness, and others. We can make a long list of advantages of anger, a good one is a fact that it opens the room for putting wrongs right.
Anger is a normal, natural, mature emotional state that is common to all humans. You can claim the saint-status and argue with me that you don’t get angry at others but yourself? It is quite normal to be displeased about a wrong either by yourself, someone, or something. The displeasure in many cases is a perfect motivation for correcting the wrong. Yes, anger can be perfectly healthy.
There is a usual misjudgment of the expressions of anger as anger itself, but many times there is no expression. Like I can be happy about an event and keep it within myself; is the same way anger can be kept without necessarily showing any negative expression. Anger does not have to involve the display of tantrums and destructive expressions like we commonly term as anger. Anger can be mature as a drive to put things right rather than progressing into a rage or temporary madness.
Consider these potent words by Plato: “the excessive increase of anything causes a reaction in the opposite direction”; in the same vein, anger in the excess can become the demise of any man. In manifestation, anger causes an increased heart rate, blood pressure, heightened adrenaline production and other physical changes which when overboard can be detrimental to he that is angry and others around.
Just like a mad man will not ascent to the reality of his psychological state, those with anger issues in almost all cases feel a right to expressing their displeasure in such ways. I am not posing a campaign against anger or expressing your displeasure, I am just of the school of thought that overdo is a killer. When your anger is constantly accompanied by an outburst and physical outrage, then you need to take caution.
The natural expression of anger is the aggressive, hostile reaction. But restrictions have to be placed on that expression as it does go against the norm and sanity of the society. There is a need for a more affirmative and constructive showing of anger against the destructive one. Anger is a negative emotion that can or rather should generate energy for positive action.
Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed, or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you. –Joel Osteen
Madness is a state of mind when the mad acts irrationally and erratic, and such is seen in many expressions of anger. I cannot see any better than a mad man in a man that decides to destroy his TV set because he is angry at his wife. An insane man does not know what he does and even picks others as the mad ones. After a fit of rage, there is a feeling similar to that of the mad man that has just regained his senses.
Unbridled anger has always resulted in regret and shame. The face of the 100 dollar bill Benjamin Franklin said, “whatever is started in anger ends in shame.” If you cannot tame your anger and channel the energy positively, you are fit to be called a momentary mad man. I have seen people that accept the subtle insanity status when they are angry. But you should remember that a mad man has never achieved anything excellent or worthy of note.
Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy. -Aristotle
Many celebrities and sportsmen have seen their careers crumble into shambles owing to uncontrolled anger. Aaron Hernandez was on course for a superb NFL career before a sudden halt due to a murder charge against him and finally suicide. I can mention names like Mido, Balotelli, Joey Barton, and several others who marred their football careers with their fits of anger.
The good news is that, like every other emotion, anger can be managed. You can manage pain and loss, learn from the experience, and bounce back. It is in a similar wise with anger, you can train yourself to refrain from being all bustle like the wind. You can learn to channel the increased blood pressure and adrenaline for causing a change instead of chaos. Yes, anger can be managed; you are not doomed to be mad momentarily.
Watch out for my next post on anger management.