5 Ways to Remain Positive in Hard Times
One philosophy I have always tried my best to live by is that you cannot control all circumstances in life but you can always control your response. You need to always keep the consciousness that success is yours irrespective of the mess of today. Here are five things to help you on the course of holding on to your positive state even in hard times:
“It’s your reaction to adversity, not adversity itself that determines how your life’s story will develop.”
― Dieter F. Uchtdorf
- Remember Nothing is Permanent
“Sooner or later, every last echo fades. Even the loudest thunder in the deepest valley.”
― Brian K. Vaughan
It is usual for the present to stand in the way of the mind seeing beyond now, just like the usual is the enemy of creativity. To attain success, you must be able to see beyond the present and catch a glimpse of the future. The wisdom here is to never forget that nothing is permanent.
Winter no matter how cold, does not tarry all year, it has got an expiration date. There is a way hard times can be so torrential that it seems they are the last card, but that is just an illusion of life. It is not that the situation cannot stay permanent if you let it, but you can always challenge it for a change. In the same vein, you can always help a positive change remain by what you do. The bottom line here is that whatever becomes your permanent reality is your choice
- Look Within
I will like to say it again that situations can be challenging enough to comatose our constructive and positive reasoning. It is truly easier said than experienced, but there are testaments to people who have successfully come out of such times to become exceedingly successful. The hero of this time is resilience, the ability to garner emotional and psychological strength amid hardship. You must be able to see within yourself something to hold on to, they must be a strong resolve within you.
“The oak fought the wind and was broken, the willow bent when it must and survived.”
― Robert Jordan
Obstacles will come at you, bend you many times; but with resilience, you will remain unbroken and undefeated. The story of the carrot, egg, and coffee bean teaches resilience well. Facing the same situation of boiling water, these three objects react differently. The carrot going in hard comes off soft, while the soft shell protected egg comes off hard and stiff. The resilient coffee bean comes off changing the water rather than it considerably changing. To come off hard times causing a change, you must be able to see a fountain of energy within yourself.
“Resilience is very different than being numb. Resilience means you experience, you feel, you fail, you hurt. You fall. But, you keep going.”
― Yasmin Mogahed
Within you is a dormant resource of courage and strength to carry you through, you need to tap into it. Pema Chodron said it this way:
“deep down in the human spirit, is a reservoir of courage. It is always available, always waiting to be discovered.”
- Expand your horizon
“Turn on the light within, expand your horizons, and reach your full potential.”
― Amit Ray
The problems of the world cannot possibly be solved by skeptics or cynics whose horizons are limited by the obvious realities. We need men who can dream of things that never were. ― John F. Kennedy
Exposure is a powerful tool in life that will enhance you to dream and see beyond your current encumbrance. Just like perspective in art, the way we see things is influenced by how much exposure we have. In negative times, you will need shoulders to lean on; which most times will not be human. You need an expanded horizon to carry you on, you need a wider view of the world. Testimonies of people that have survived turbulent times, nations that have moved from a state of poverty to a wealthy state, battles of independence, the abolition of the slave trade, discrimination, and many global victories are few of pool of strength for tough times. Keeping a myopic and streamlined mind in despair and troubled times is a quick medicine to depression. Increase your view, see from a bigger perspective; expand your horizon.
“To expand the horizons of your utmost destiny you have to venture beyond the confines of fear, doubt, and negativity.”― Anthon St. Maarten
In expanding your horizon, learn to employ your imagination. Imagination is the first phase of reality, envision what or where you want to be.
“Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine, and at last, you create what you will.” ―George Bernard Shaw
- Speak Positively
“If we understood the power of our thoughts, we would guard them more closely. If we understood the awesome power of our words, we would prefer silence to almost anything negative. In our thoughts and words, we create our weaknesses and our strengths. Our limitations and joys begin in our hearts. We can always replace negative with positive.” –Betty Eadie
Psychologically, it has been proven that the words we speak settle into our subconscious mind literarily. It means our subconscious mind translates the words exactly like it is said, it does not understand sarcasm or irony. There is a great amount of power in the words we speak not just on someone else hearing us, but more on ourselves. With your words, you can choose to amplify or subdue your fear.
Your confession is a direct reflection of your internal state, and it is also a great influence on your reality. What you say is easy for your mind to believe than what someone else says. You are your best motivator, let your words build up your spirit not cast it down. The more we hear a thing, the more we tend to believe it. Learn to constantly speak positive things even when the reality is not showing it yet.
Apart from the internal effect of our words, the external environment responds more to our words. There is an attraction between our words and thoughts and the forces of the universe to bring such thoughts or words to pass. You will attract that which you say or think about invariably. It does not matter how hard the walls are pressing in on you, keep your mouth professing positive things, it is a matter of time.
- Get your hands busy
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” ~ Dale Carnegie
Working hard and diligently is worth more than a dormant talent kept in the freezer to chill. The Holy Scripture has it well said; “a living dog is worth more than a dead lion.” The place or state of your beginning is not as important as the quality you put into the work. When the times are hard and the road is rough, never lose your diligence; keep working hard. When it is said that the talent of a man opens the door for him, it was talking about a talent that is at work not reposing.
“A dream does not become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination, and hard work.” ~ Colin Powell
Get your hands not just busy, but dirty with work. The belly of the diligent will never lack bread, even when the situation is tough. Idleness will only open you up to more negative and depressing thoughts. Remember luck they say is when an opportunity is met with preparedness.
“Men die of boredom, psychological conflict, and disease. They do not die of hard work.” ~ David Ogilvy
We may not be able to choose many events of our life, but we can always wield the power to control our reactions and attitude in the face of any event. Like any other thing in life, surviving hard times take conscious efforts and preparation. Learn to live every day with a bigger picture, see beyond today, learn to call forth your inner resilience, enlarge the scope of your mind, think and speak positively and keep working hard; success is truly yours.