I am sure I won’t be the first to use the statement “there is light at the end of the tunnel” yes, that is quite true depending on the circumstances. Most times, that statement is used in times of hardship and challenges; surely there is light at the end of such tunnel. Challenges and hardships bring out of us a better version, with improved character especially patience.
But there are three dark paths which I have seen in my short time on earth to be tunnels with no light at their ends. The unfortunate thing about these tunnels is that they are personal doings. What do I mean? Many times when we pass through challenges or hardships, its not our personal choice and most times its beyond our control.
But these lightless and endless tunnels are what you choose yourself; and fortunately, are what you can get out of yourself.
Take this from me, these things are quite subtle; you have to be intentional in dealing with them:
- Fear: a Japanese proverb expressed a lot about fear;
Fear is only as deep as the mind allows
Fear is a strong, uncontrollable and unpleasant emotion caused by actual or perceived threat. Do you see the fix there? The threat need not be there, you can perceive it and boom the emotion sets in. Life is surely filled with uncertainties and everyone will have a fair share of it; fear of what tomorrow holds or what may happen is a tunnel with no light. It cripples your dream and take away the instinct to take a step. Like the proverb, it is as deep as you let your mind allow it, fear should be dominated by you, not otherwise. Always remember that not taking a step is accepting failure without trying; take that step now, you loss nothing.
- Worry: this has become some people’s normal way of living; they are so deep in the tunnel that they can’t do but worry about everything. Worry is an unpleasant state of mental uneasiness, nervousness, apprehension and concern.
Just like it’s brother, worry most times is to a perceived problem not an actual one. Worrying is like starting the engine of a car and keeping it on a spot for hours. Worry gets your mental arsenal unsettled and unproductive while actively “worry-working”.
3. Anger: an angry man is in many respects similar to a mad man, or we should say anger is a momentary madness; because I can’t fathom why an angry man will smash the screen of his LCD TV because his wife angered him.
You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger
At different times we have all been angry, and will still be angry; but how do you display your anger, how long do you hold on to your anger.
It is folly to speak when angry, speak when you are angry, you will make the best speech you will ever regret.
Anger can be healthy when you learn to deal with it and not let it control you; anger is like a dark cloud that momentarily veils your judgement. The hardest but wisest thing to do when angry is to keep quiet and still.
The painful thing is that one or all of fear, worry and anger has been taken by some people as weaknesses; they have believed the deceit. Emotions can be mastered and these 3 things are emotions; they are states of the mind. You can master them, but first you must believe you can. Think better of yourself, speak better of yourself and then you will believe better of yourself; then you are on your way for a change.
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